Saturday, August 4, 2012

I have a dilema. I welcome advice.

I have a dilemma, I will start from the beginning.

I have a cute son, who from the best we can figure out has extreme anxiety, especially in a crowd. He is a sweet boy who wants nothing more than to be good. However when there are people around he "freaks out" I can see it in his eyes. It is more of a look of fear then anything. He hits people if they get close to him and he gets upset very easily. Finally after a couple years of school of always being in trouble and being called a bully they got him in a learning center class for kids with behavior issues. It really seemed to be the ticket. He improved throughout the entire year. It was so nice to think that he might learn to control himself and not have kids thinking he is mean. When really he is so kind and caring.

He then started his second year of school at a new school because he was to old for the learning center he was in. From the beginning we had issues with his teacher. His behavior went downhill quickly and he was constantly in trouble. I was worried about him. I thought maybe we needed to change his meds or something else. I didn't agree with the teacher on some things and so I would call the district or talk to the principal about things. But the situation continued to deteriorate. (I may go into more detail another post) One day at SEP (student, educator, parent) meeting, his teacher went on and on for over a hour about all the things my son had done wrong (with him sitting right there). I could tell it was hurting him to hear these things. Finally he said to her "well you pull me over my desk and slam me into the wall" to my astonishment her reply was "well you should have been doing your work"

I sent in a request to have him moved, stating what had happened. After some time I was told he would be moved in a couple weeks to a new school. During that time things got worse. He would come home and tell me she would do these things to him and I didn't believe him. I thought he was exaggerating. I know he can be hard kid to handle so I was assuming it was him. (I feel so bad) The last week of school he would cry everyday begging me not to make him go to school and telling me that his teacher would lie to another kid telling him that my son had done something to him to make the other kid hurt my son. It was just to much to believe. A grown woman, a teacher would never do that.

He finally got moved to a new school and his behavior improved 400%. He was not in trouble everyday. He would go days without any problems. This made me wonder what had really happened at the old school.

I talked to several adults that were in and around the situation and found out that everything he had ever complained about had actually happened and more. His teacher was physically and emotionally abusing him nearly everyday. My poor boy. This is where my dilemma comes in. What do I do? How far do I go? I sent in a letter to the district, 19 pages on what had happened. I haven't heard anything in weeks. I know she was moved from the school she was at because some of the adults told on her. But to my amazement she was not fired. She is still teaching kids. From the responses I got when I would call the district or the principal on her she has had issues before. How can a person be allowed to still teach after that. If they don't make it so she can't teach again what do I do? My son is out of the situation so part of me wants to just stay out of it and not drag him through anything more. But the other part of me feels a responsibility to the kids who may be in her class in the future. What if someone had stopped her before my son was in her class? He would be so much better off right now.

Do I go to the police and press charges?

Do I sue her and the school district for knowingly placing my son in harms way?

Do I go to the media to see if I can get results?

My goal is not to make her go to jail, it is just to make sure she is not allowed to hurt anyone else. I don't want to sue because the taxpayers will ultimately be the ones to get hurt, as that is the only income source for the schools. I don't want my son to have to testify or be run through the ringer. I know she has already tried to turn everything I said against me. Even one of my good friends for years will not talk to me because she taught with her.

Why is it that the person that has the crime done against them is the one that suffers through the entire process? I just want it to go away but I don't feel I can let it. Why cant the district have the backbone to do the right thing and stop putting me through this? Maybe they will.


Monday, April 4, 2011

Saturday, April 2, 2011

My Buggy

As most of you probably know a little over 4 years ago, Tony and I built a buggy. It has been very fun to have. With the exception of one life flight trip to the hospital 4 years ago we haven't had to many issues with it. We bought a new trailer (toyhauler) and the door is 50" wide and the buggy rear was 52". We made it one trip by taking off one of the rear wheels and pushing it in. We couldn't find any wheels with the offset we needed so we modified some. I cut out the centers on the waterjet at work, and since I was cutting on them I added some bears. I love bears! They turned out pretty good and this should make loading and unloading much easier.

If you haven't seen it before check out and click on the builds link on the right side then it is the tera tamer build.

Below I put some pictures from Tony's broken arm. It was 4 years ago this month. Don't look if your stomach is weak.

He had to wear this to move his hand. Breaking his arm damaged a nerve and he couldn't open his hand or lift his wrist for 7 months.

After the surgery. Lots of hardware.

Nasty bruise.

This is where his seatbelt rubbed.

The jog in the cut is where the bone came out on its own.

You can see the gaps in the bone where pieces were missing.

The following video is on of the happiest days in our lives. :) This was 7 months after he broke his arm and it had not moved at all up to this point.

Friday, April 1, 2011

It has been awhile

Sorry I got tired of trying to put the pictures where I want them. I hope you get the idea. Camping and hiking in southern Utah. Brayden on his bike. The boys are getting to be quite the good riders. Owen on his bike. Pretty Hannah. My husband does such a good job of keeping up on what we are doing on his web site I neglect mine. I am going to try to do some catching up. Two years ago today I started working as a Engineer at Kihomac. It is a great company and I really enjoy it. In Feb last year I was promoted to Engineering Manager. I really enjoyed working with the Engineers and the others on the Management team. Earlier this week I was promoted to Deputy Director over Manufacturing. I am looking forward to this new challenge. One nice thing about working there is there is a lot of cool "toys" to play with. I will post some pics. Hannah is doing good at Daycare/Preschool and will be starting Kindergarten this year. I can't believe how fast my baby is growing up. She is a little fire ball and loves to talk. She is taking dance (ballet) and tumbling. Owen is doing Great! He was in a less then ideal, well no down right crappy class at the begining of the year. Many calls and emails and complaints later I got him moved to a different class and it is awesome. He does so good and is progressing so fast. A good teacher makes all the difference in the world. Speaking of good teachers, Brayden has a awesome teacher this year. I am so glad he is in her class. He is doing really well this year and learning so much. He is growing up so fast. I can't believe he is 11. Only one more year and he will be a Decon and have the Priesthood. WOW! Tony is doing good and still working as an accountant. He works hard keeping all our toys running and keeping us happy campers. We bought a new trailer this year and so far it is great. He has gotten really good at making videos and documenting trips on his web site, We are all doing good and enjoying life.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

For the Reese's

My brother got a job in Ohio. We are very excited and sad about this. It is a great opportunity for them but very far away. As part of the move they are not able to take their dog Aggie. So we are keeping her for them. Her and Deegan hit it off right away and have been having a great time together. I may have to change her name to Houdini though by the way she makes food disappear and how she magically got out of the yard in the middle of the night. I could not find anywhere in the fence that she could have gotten out. Luckily she was just trying to get back in and came when we called. I think these two will have a great time together.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Trying to catch up

It has been way to long so I am going to make up for it with a really long post.

Hannah had her 4th birthday in November. This year she wanted a pink princess cake.

She got lots of great stuff and had a fun time.

Owen turned 8 in December. He got the DS he has been wanting and some scriptures and a BB gun.

Owen also got Baptized in December. What a big boy. We had lots of family down and despite the snow all got home safe. Thank you everyone for sharing this special day with us.

Of course in December is also Christmas. We had a great day and over all 2009 ended very well.

New Table and Chairs

Anyone who has been at my house lately knows that my dining room chairs are falling apart, badly. They were some cheap chairs Tony and I bought right after we got married and we have used them over the past 14 years almost. I got a bonus from work so I decided to look for some new chairs and today we found this set at RC Willey. It was a display set so it has a few small scratches but for 2/3 off I can deal with a small scratch or two. It has 8 chairs and we can put in 3 very large leafs it is nearly 12 feet long with all the leafs in and about 6 feet without them. It is a really dark stain and I love the all wood chairs. Anyhow as you can tell I am excited and happy with what I got!

Friday, November 20, 2009


Brayden kicked a ball in the front room and hit a vase that was made by my great aunt who happened to have passed away recently and knocked it to the floor where it broke into several pieces. I was very upset and sad that it was broken and I yelled at Brayden. Then I claned it up and went on with what I was doing. A few minutes later Brayden gave me the note below. What a sweetheart. Then we tried to glue the vace back together. It is still missing a few pieces but it is better then nothing. I am sorry I yelled at him he is a good kid.

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Boys School Pics



I will try to get one of Hannah up here soon.